男女必讀——好男人應必備的三大品質
I'm going to relate this particular article to the movie "The Wizard of Oz". If you've ever had the luxury of seeing the movie, you know it's about a girl named Dorothy, and her journey to visit the Wizard (with her dog Toto). The Wizard is suppose to have the ability to help Dorothy get back to her home in Kansas.
我要說的內容和電影《綠野仙蹤》有關。如果恰好你也看過這部電影，你一定知道故事主要講述了一個名叫桃樂絲的小女孩和她的小狗“託託”一起啓程拜訪魔法師，乞求他幫助他們重返堪薩斯家園的故事。
On her way to meet the Wizard, Dorothy runs into three men who need help. She runs into a scarecrow, a tin man, and a male lion, and she agrees to let them follow her on her journey to see the Wizard.
路上，桃樂絲遇見了三個需要幫助的人：稻草人、鐵皮人和一頭雄獅，爲了達到各自的願望，桃樂絲答應他們一同前行。
The scarecrow doesn't have a brain, the tin man doesn't have a heart, and the lion, believe it or not, doesn't have courage.
稻草人沒有頭腦，鐵皮人沒有心臟，而這頭獅子，不管你信不信，卻是膽小如鼠，一點勇氣也沒有。
So we have Dorothy and her dog Toto leading three men; three men who are searching for a brain, a heart, and courage.
三個人跟隨桃樂絲和小狗“託託”一路前行，各自尋找頭腦、心臟和勇氣。
Let me repeat that, for those of you who weren't paying attention, we have three men, being led by a girl and a dog, trying to find a brain, a heart, and courage.
要是剛纔有人打盹沒聽見的話，我再囉嗦一下: 稻草人、鐵皮人和獅子一路上跟着小女孩和她的小狗來找回各自的頭腦、心臟和勇氣。
The 3 Signs of a Good Man:
1. A Brain 有頭腦
Women, the first sign of a good man is that he has a brain. In other words, he's astute, judicious, and intelligent; he can think for himself, his actions are not dictated by his friends or his associates.
對於女人來說，好男人首先應該有頭腦。換句話說，他精明做人、睿智處事；他遇事有主見，所做之事不受朋友或同伴的意見左右。
He possesses the cognitive ability to recognize your importance and see your true value. He's smart enough to appreciate you, and intelligent enough to show it.
他知道你的重要性及價值所在。他不僅懂得欣賞你，還能恰如其分地讓你知道他在欣賞你。
He's a visionary; he knows what he's doing and where he's going. He's a leader; he's able to handle his responsibilities; he's able to control himself, his anger, and his nature, in other words, he has a brain.
他是個有遠見卓識的人，他做事胸有成竹，目標明確；他是一位領導者，他有能力肩負起自己的責任；他能駕馭自己，控制住自己的憤怒、性情，換而言之，他是一位有頭腦的人。
2. A Heart 有心
The second sign of a good man is that he has a heart. Some men are cold, they're callous and they're mean. They don't feel anything, don't care about anything, don't care if you cry, don't care when you hurt, they are uninterested in the things that you are interested in; your feelings mean "nothing," they don't have a heart!
好男人其次應該有心。有的男人冷酷無情，吝嗇不堪。他們不關心也不在乎任何事情，你哭了他不懂得關心你，受傷了他不懂得照顧你，你感興趣的事物他也無心理會；對他而言，你的感情就是浮雲！這樣的男人空有心卻無情！
A man "with a heart" is concerned about you, takes an interest in the things that interest you, and prizes you above anyone else. A man with a heart will spend time with you, because he knows that time is a sign of value. What people value they dedicate time to. A good man has a heart.
一個真正有“心”的男人他會關心你，會愛屋及烏地對你感興趣的事情產生興趣，他會珍惜你，視你爲掌上珍寶。一個真正有“心”的男人他願意花時間陪你，因爲他知道時間就是價值的象徵，而人都願意把時間花在有價值的地方。總之，好男人是一位有心人。
A man with a heart defers to you, respects your emotions, your feelings and your perspective. A man with a heart is not intimated by your intelligence, intuition and sensitivity; he understands you and relies on you.
一個真正有“心”的男人會尊重你，尊重你的感情和想法。一個真正有“心”的男人他不會受你的智慧、直覺或敏感的心而左右，他會理解你、依賴着你。
A man with a heart respects his parents, his neighbors and most importantly, a man with a heart respects the women he’s with.
一個真正有“心”的男人會尊敬長輩和鄰里，但最重要的是他尊重與他相攜到老的女人。
3. Courage 有勇氣
The third sign of a good man is courage. He has courage in the face of circumstances, challenges and misunderstandings. He doesn't quit or shrink, he doesn't run-out, and he doesn't give up or back down when things get rough; he has courage. He has the courage to stay committed to relationships, the courage to make big decisions, and the courage to back his decisions.
好男人第三個品質是有勇氣。他有足夠的勇氣去面對突發事件、挑戰以及誤解。身臨困境之下他絕不退縮、永不言棄，他會以十足的勇氣來迎接挑戰。他勇於遵守愛情諾言，敢於做出決斷，並對做出的決定有十足的信心及把握。
He has the courage to change when change is required.
同時，當世事變遷時，他還有順應時勢及時應變的能力。
He has the courage to take risk, the courage to pursue his dreams, the courage to love the unlovely, and the courage to do the right thing.
有勇氣的男人還敢於冒險，勇於追夢，能容不愛之人，會做正義之事。
He has the courage to commit to you for a lifetime, the courage to respect you, the courage to protect you, the courage to earn a living, the courage to pursue his passion and the courage to be the man that you desire him to be.
有勇氣的男人會對你忠守一生，會敬你、護你、養你，他勇於追求夢想，願意如你所願，努力成爲你心目中的白馬王子。
In closing, a good man has a brain, he has a heart, and last but not least, a good man has courage.
總之，好男人會有頭腦、用心待人，最重要的是好男人還是位有膽量的人。
