人生不留遺憾：今天就去做的12件事

When you’re nearing the summit of this turbulent climb through life, will you reach the top with wild enthusiasm or will you be hobbling with the aching knees of regret? You’ve climbed through storms, passed over green patches and had help from friends, and now it’s almost over. Your whole life has been leading you to this moment and one thing is certain: this final ascent we all have to do alone.
生活遇到湍急巔峯時，你是樂觀攀登到頂點還是悲嘆着徘徊不前？你已經歷過狂風暴雨、走過一馬平川，也得到過朋友的幫助，但現在一切已成過往。人生走到這一刻，唯一能確定的便是：最後這一仗，你只能孤身奮戰了。

What thoughts will flash through your mind? You will be faced with tough questions such as: Did I do enough, love enough, was I happy?
你想到了什麼？是不是想到這樣的棘手問題：我做得夠好嗎？愛得夠多嗎？我快樂嗎？

You might leave these questions simmering on the back burner, thinking tomorrow will be a good day to contemplate the answers, but remember—tomorrow might not come!
或許你選擇暫且把這些疑問擱置一邊，等明天再好好思考。但是別忘了——明日復明日，萬事成蹉跎！

So here’s what you can do today. Let’s call this an insurance policy for tomorrow’s happiness.
下面這些事情是你今天就能做的，姑且看作是明天幸福的保證吧。

1. Put your health and wellness above everything else
健康高於一切

There is an old saying: “If you don’t have your health you have nothing,” and this is very true. Your body is housing your soul. Exercise, eat clean and get the proper rest. Take care of your body so that you have the opportunity to lead a long and full life.
俗話說：“健康不再，萬事無奈。” 千真萬確。身體是革命的本錢。要運動、健康飲食、恰當休息。照顧好自己的身體，這樣纔有機會創造完滿人生。

2. Take the time to do the things you love
花時間做喜歡的事

This may sound cliché, but work less and play more. You will never regret taking a vacation, engaging in a new hobby or spending a day with those who make you happy. But you might regret never taking that art class, reading that book or crossing big items off the bucket list. Be a participant in life.
雖是陳詞濫調，但你確實應該少操心工作、多學會享受。去度假、發展新愛好或和使你快樂的人消磨一天，你絕對不會後悔；但若是沒有去上那堂藝術課、沒有閱讀某本書或沒能完成某個心願，你卻會感到後悔。所以，做個生活的積極參與者吧。

3. Stop taking life so seriously
別過得一本正經

Why are you taking life so seriously anyway? Really? Find humor in something everyday, and laugh, laugh a lot!
幹嘛把生活搞得如此嚴肅呢，嗯？每天找些樂子，多開懷大笑吧！

4. Always say what you need to say
說該說的話

If you love someone, tell them. If someone hurt you, tell them. If you have trouble expressing your feelings, then write a letter. Make sure those around you know each and every day how you feel.
如果你愛某個人，那就告白吧；如果某人傷害了你，那就說出來吧。要是你不擅長口頭表達情感，那就採取寫信的方式。確保身邊的人每天都能知道你的感受。

5. Open up your mind to possibilities
向機遇敞開心懷

If you look in your garage and see a coiled, dark shadow that resembles a snake, your reaction might be to jump with fear, but later when you look closer and realize it’s just a green hose, you might feel silly for believing the tricks of your mind. Stop being controlled by your deluded projections.
如果你探頭看到垃圾箱有個貌似蛇的黑乎乎蜷曲着的東西，第一反應肯定是嚇了一跳，再細看時，你發現其實只是一截綠色水管，原來是自己看錯了啊，你啞然失笑。所以，不要再被自己無端假想給絆住。

Change your perspective and open yourself up to a new world of exciting and fulfilling possibilities. Look at your life with fresh eyes and you’ll find improved relationships, more excitement, and less resentments, anger and bitterness.
換個視覺，敞開心胸接納各種驚奇而有意義的機遇。用全新眼光審視自己的生活，你會發現更融洽的人際關係、更多開心，會少一些牴觸、憤怒與痛苦。

6. Follow your own path—live a life true to you
聽從內心——過自己的生活

Stop comparing yourself to others and stop striving for perfection. Life is not a masquerade ball—take off the mask, be yourself! If people don’t like it, then maybe it’s time to find a new party. Doing or being any other way will leave you feeling lonely, depressed and hopeless. Stop living a life based on the expectations of others.
停止與他人攀比，停止追求完美。生活不是一場化裝舞會——摘掉面具，做回你自己吧！要是別人不喜歡，那就換個環境。有悖自我只會使你感到孤獨、沮喪甚至絕望。不要再爲了他人的期望而生活了。

7. Stop living in the past
停止活在過去

Right now you need to throw away regrets of the past. It’s gone, there is no point dwelling on what could of been, doing so will only rob the present moment of joy.
從現在開始，你應該拋開對過去的悔恨。既然已經過去，後悔不僅於事無補，反倒會掠走當下的快樂。

The past doesn’t exist except as a memory, it’s a mental story and it can’t be changed. Why not tell the story of your past in a way that enhances your present moment and future.
過去除了回憶一無所有，而回憶只是一則無法改變的故事罷了。既然如此，何不以積極的方式講述過去的故事，從而爲當下及將來提供正能量呢？8. Accept the things you cannot change
接受無法改變的事情

When you fight against reality, you get bloody in a battle of what ifs and denial. Whether your reality is that you should have married someone else, said something you needed to say, or are dealing with an illness, the reality is you can’t change any these things. Dwelling or worrying is only robbing your present moment of all joy.
在與現實的鬥爭中，你不斷假設又不斷碰壁，撞得頭破血流。不論你是在後悔錯過該嫁的人、說了不該說的話，或正身患疾病，現實都無法改變。一味沉溺其中或憂愁焦慮只會喪失當下的快樂。

What you can do is re-evaluate your life now and take the necessary steps to make the appropriate changes. Follow your instincts, they will tell you when you have veered off the path of where you should be, whether it be your relationship or career. Tune into your inner compass it will guide you in the right direction.
你能做的是從現在起重新審視自己的生活，採取必要措施作出恰當改變。聽從直覺的指引。不論是感情還是職業，請讓內心指引你到達正確方向。

Take “what if”, “should have” and “why me” out of your story. Move on.
把“假如”、“本應該”及“爲什麼是我”從字典裏刪除。然後，繼續前行。

9. Practice mindful living
試着用心生活

Mindful living will in fact slow down time; it will enhance the present moment and fill otherwise mundane days with awe and joy.
用心生活能放慢時間、彰顯當下時光並使平凡的日子充滿驚喜與快樂。

Ten years from now you might think, Where did my life go? When we live mindfully we immerse ourselves in moments. These are the moments that make up our lives. If you don’t practice mindfulness you run the risk of having these precious moments of your life lost to a string of foggy over-thinking. Rest in the spaces in between the major events, these spaces are your life.
十年後你可能會問：我這輩子是怎麼過來的？如果用心生活，你會盡情過好每分每秒，而正是這些分分秒秒構成了全部生活；要是麻木生活，你會錯失生活中美好的瞬間，以後只留下一抹模糊的掠影。享受里程碑間的間歇時光吧——這些就是你的生活呵。

10. Stop chasing money, fame, and possessions
停止追逐金錢、名利和財富

We crave wealth, prestige, fame and popularity, we crave material things and beautiful people. We mistakenly think that happiness is going to arrive when we meet these goals. Instead of enjoying our life, we are in a constant pursuit of something other than where we are right now.
我們渴望財富、聲望與名利，我們渴望物質和俊男美女。我們錯誤地以爲，只要得到這些，幸福就會降臨。我們忘了要享受生活、忽視當下時光，轉而樂此不疲地追求其他東西。

At the end of your life, your expensive BMW will not be what’s flashing through your mind. You will more likely smile at the memory of your loyal dog. Stop chasing material possessions, there is no real happiness there, only an endless pursuit.
嚥氣之際，你腦中閃現的或許不是寶馬汽車，而是讓你微笑的忠誠老狗。停止追逐物質財富吧。物質並不能帶來真正的快樂，只會招來永無止境的貪婪。

11. Always practice gratitude
常常感恩

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” — Melody Beattie
“感恩開啓生活的圓滿。它使我們擁有更多，變拒絕爲接受，化混亂爲有序，使困惑變澄澈。它能將簡餐變成盛宴、房屋變成家園、陌生人變成好朋友。”—— 梅洛迪-貝蒂

Gratitude improves health, happiness, spirituality, connection, relationships, self-worth and simply gives life intense meaning.
感恩改善健康、快樂、精神、關係、人際和自我價值，並賦予生活深刻內涵。

Even if your life isn’t perfect—and here’s a secret, it never will be perfect—you still have a lot to be grateful for. So every day remember to take the time to smile, laugh and truly say thanks for all the small and big joys in your life.
哪怕你的生活並不完美（其實生活從來不曾完美），你仍有許多可以感恩的地方。所以，每天要記得微笑大笑，感激生活中或大或小的樂趣。

12. Love
愛心This is an excerpt by the famous Martha Beck that has made an enormous impact on my life. It sums up regret beautifully:
下面一段話摘自瑪莎-貝克的文字，把遺憾總結非常美妙，我感到受益匪淺：

“So the ultimate lesson of regret, the one that will help guide you into a rich and satisfying future, is this: Every time life brings you to a crossroads, from the tiniest to the most immense, go toward love, not away from fear. Think of every choice in terms of “What would thrill and delight me?” rather than “What will keep my fear—or the events, people, and things I fear—at bay?”
“最後一課是關於遺憾。能指引你走向豐富而圓滿的未來的是：每次生活中遇到十字路口，不論大小，都選擇愛心那條路，而不是恐懼方向。每次都告訴自己‘前方有什麼有趣的事情在等我’，而不是暗示自己‘前方有什麼可怕的事情或人物’。”

Pay attention to all of the sources of love in your life and you’ll develop a growing sense of abundance of how much beauty surrounds you each day.
關注生活中的點滴愛心，慢慢你會發現，每天的生活都那麼豐富而美妙！

So let’s summarize: A cheat sheet to living without regrets
現在讓我們總結一下：無悔生活的貼士

Take care of your health
保持健康

Make time to do the things you love, work less, laugh and play
花時間做喜歡的事，少操心工作、多享受歡樂

Say what you need to say
說該說的話

Practice mindfulness
用心生活

Change your perspective
改變視覺

Let go of the past
放開過去

Accept the things you can not change
接受無法改變的事情

Stop thinking happiness is a future event
不要再認爲幸福在於未來

Stop chasing money and material wealth
停止追逐金錢和物質財富

Live authentically
真實生活

Take off the mask
摘下面具

Follow your instincts
聽從直覺

Practice gratitude
學會感恩

Don’t make your decisions based on fear
別讓恐懼牽制你的決定

Love, love love!
充滿愛心！

There is no guarantee that you won’t make any bad decisions, but when you start living your life with these tools in mind, your days will naturally become meaningful. Your wise eyes will be full of adventure and tales: adventures that might not be perfect, but at the very least won’t be filled with regrets.
誰也不能保證你絕不會做出糟糕的決定，但一旦你在生活中謹記以上建議，一切自然會變得充滿意義。你的眼裏寫滿冒險和故事：冒險或許並不完美，但絕對會讓你無悔！