美國媽媽聖誕節送兒子iPhone：約法18章在先！
It's a classic parenting dilemma of the digital age: You want your kid to have that shiny new smartphone, but don't want that to lead to an ongoing power struggle over how it can and can't be used.
這應該是數字時代父母會遇到的經典難題：想讓自己的孩子擁有閃亮的新款智能手機，卻又不想手機的使用問題跟孩子陷入曠日持久的拉鋸戰。
It seems Janell Burley Hofmann, a blogger and mother of five, has found a solution.
不過看起來這位叫詹妮爾-霍夫曼的博主找到了解決方法，她是五個孩子的母親。
She gave her 13-year-old son Gregory an iPhone for Christmas. But it came with a catch -- namely, an 18-point contract outlining how Gregory's new toy can and can't be used.
她給13歲的兒子格雷戈裏買了一部iPhone手機做聖誕禮物，但同時又跟兒子簽訂了一共18條的手機使用合同，合同中明確規定了格雷戈裏使用手機時的種種規則。
Gregory’s iPhone Contract
格雷戈裏的iPhone手機使用合同：
Dear Gregory
親愛的格雷戈裏：
Merry Christmas! You are now the proud owner of an iPhone. Hot Damn! You are a good & responsible 13 year old boy and you deserve this gift. But with the acceptance of this present comes rules and regulations. Please read through the following contract. I hope that you understand it is my job to raise you into a well rounded, healthy young man that can function in the world and coexist with technology, not be ruled by it. Failure to comply with the following list will result in termination of your iPhone ownership.
聖誕快樂！現在你已經是這臺iPhone的主人了。太棒了！你是一名優秀而且負責任的13歲男孩了，你理應得到這樣的禮物。不過接受這件禮物的同時，還是有一些規章制度要遵守的。請閱讀下面所有的制度內容。我希望你能明白這些是我經過深思熟慮之後寫下的，這些對你會很有幫助，讓這臺手機爲你所用，而不會讓你受到手機的擺佈。如果你沒能按照下面這些內容來做，那麼恐怕我就要收回這臺iPhone咯！
I love you madly & look forward to sharing several million text messages with you in the days to come.
非常期望在未來的日子裏能和你用這臺手機發消息、打電話。愛你！
1. It is my phone. I bought it. I pay for it. I am loaning it to you. Aren’t I the greatest?
這是我的手機。這是我買的，我付的錢。我現在把它先借給你，老媽我是不是很偉大？
2. I will always know the password.
手機的密碼必須讓我知道。
3. If it rings, answer it. It is a phone. Say hello, use your manners. Do not ever ignore a phone call if the screen reads “Mom” or “Dad”. Not ever.
來電話的時候要接，禮貌地說“你好”。如果是媽媽或者爸爸的來電，不可以拒接或忽略！
4. Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at 7:30pm every school night & every weekend night at 9:00pm. It will be shut off for the night and turned on again at 7:30am. If you would not make a call to someone’s land line, wherein their parents may answer first, then do not call or text. Listen to those instincts and respect other families like we would like to be respected.
週一至週五在晚上7：30之前要把手機交給我們，週末可以延遲到晚上9點。晚上我們會關掉這臺手機，並且到第二天的早晨7：30再開。打電話給其他固定電話，有家長先接的時候要有禮貌，就像尊敬我們一樣尊敬他們。不要因爲對方的家庭電話會先有家長接聽就不打過去，而選擇給對方發消息。
5. It does not go to school with you. Have a conversation with the people you text in person. It’s a life skill. *Half days, field trips and after school activities will require special consideration.
手機不能帶去學校。那些跟你發短信的學校朋友，平常也要保證和他們當面的對話交流，這是基本的生活技能。（上學僅半天、校外的參觀學習或課外活動等情況可另外考慮）
6. If it falls into the toilet, smashes on the ground, or vanishes into thin air, you are responsible for the replacement costs or repairs. Mow a lawn, babysit, stash some birthday money. It will happen, you should be prepared.
如果手機掉進了廁所、掉在地上摔壞或丟失，你需要承擔更換或維修的費用。鋤草、照看嬰兒以及把生日拿到的錢存起來，這些都可以掙到錢，你應當提前爲此做好準備。
7. Do not use this technology to lie, fool, or deceive another human being. Do not involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others. Be a good friend first or stay the hell out of the crossfire.
不要用iPhone發送任何相關的內容欺騙、愚弄其他人。談話中不要中傷你的朋友，在使用這款手機通話之前，必須首先確保你是個稱職的朋友。
8. Do not text, email, or say anything through this device you would not say in person.
對於那些你無法當面說出口的話，請不要選擇發消息、郵件或其他通過這款手機傳遞信息的方式代替。
9. Do not text, email, or say anything to someone that you would not say out loud with their parents in the room. Censor yourself.
監督好自己，那些不能當着對方父母的面大聲說出來的事，也不要通過手機發消息、郵件等形式來傳遞。
10. No porn. Search the web for information you would openly share with me. If you have a question about anything, ask a person – preferably me or your father.
杜絕色情內容。只能搜索查看那些可以與我一起看的內容。如果你有任何問題，都可以選擇問其他人，最好是我或者你的父親。11. Turn it off, silence it, put it away in public. Especially in a restaurant, at the movies, or while speaking with another human being. You are not a rude person; do not allow the iPhone to change that.
公共場合請關閉手機，或是靜音以及收起來。尤其是在餐廳、電影院，以及和其他人交談的時候。你是個有禮貌的孩子，不要因爲你的iPhone讓別人改變了對你的看法。
12. Do not send or receive pictures of your private parts or anyone else’s private parts. Don’t laugh. Someday you will be tempted to do this despite your high intelligence. It is risky and could ruin your teenage/college/adult life. It is always a bad idea. Cyberspace is vast and more powerful than you. And it is hard to make anything of this magnitude disappear – including a bad reputation.
不要發送或接收你私處或者其他人私處的圖片。（不要笑）未來你可能會經受不住誘惑做出這樣的事。這樣做很不好，並且會毀了你中學大學乃至未來的生活。互聯網很龐大，遠比你想得複雜，裏面有很多不好的東西是我們不該去接觸的。
13. Don’t take a zillion pictures and videos. There is no need to document everything. Live your experiences. They will be stored in your memory for eternity.
不要無節制地拍照、拍視頻。沒有必要把生活中的所有東西都用手機記錄下來，對我們來說只有記在腦子裏纔是永恆的。
14. Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision. It is not alive or an extension of you. Learn to live without it. Be bigger and more powerful than FOMO – fear of missing out.
有的時候出去玩可以選擇把手機放在家裏，這樣你會更有安全感。手機不是你的全部，學着拋開它。不要被手機束縛住。我們即便離開了手機一樣可以生活得很好。
15. Download music that is new or classic or different than the millions of your peers that listen to the same exact stuff. Your generation has access to music like never before in history. Take advantage of that gift. Expand your horizons.
下載的音樂，不管是新潮還是古典的，都要有你自己的個性，不要流於俗套和其他同齡人都聽一樣的東西。你們這一代人能夠接觸到音樂的途徑比前人廣得多，好好利用這個禮物，這對擴展你的視野會很有幫助。
16. Play a game with words or puzzles or brain teasers every now and then.
可以用iPhone常常玩一些拼字、解謎和鍛鍊大腦的遊戲。
17. Keep your eyes up. See the world happening around you. Stare out a window. Listen to the birds. Take a walk. Talk to a stranger. Wonder without googling.
保持冷靜，時常留意你周圍發生的事，看看窗外、聽聽鳥叫、出去散散步。和路上的行人說說話，不要總是用手機搜索。
18. You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will sit down and talk about it. We will start over again. You & I, we are always learning. I am on your team. We are in this together.
當你因爲這部手機感到迷茫的時候，我會暫時收回手機，然後我們一起坐下來談談。我們再從頭開始，我和你都還在學習的過程中，我和你是一起的，記住！
It is my hope that you can agree to these terms. Most of the lessons listed here do not just apply to the iPhone, but to life. You are growing up in a fast and ever changing world. It is exciting and enticing. Keep it simple every chance you get. Trust your powerful mind and giant heart above any machine. I love you. I hope you enjoy your awesome new iPhone. Merry Christmas!
我希望你能同意上面每一條內容。上面的大部分內容都並不僅針對這臺iPhone，更是對生活的提示。你在這個快速變化的世界裏長大，這裏有許多令人興奮和誘人誤入歧途的事物。相信你自己的內心，不要被任何機器左右。我愛你。最後希望你使用這臺手機愉快！聖誕快樂！
xoxoxo
Mom
愛你的，媽媽
