愛生活愛自己：善待自己的15種方式

“I love myself.” That sounds a bit silly (and I doubt anyone would ever say it out loud), but self-love isn’t reserved for the egomaniacs of the world. Finding the confidence to succeed (or even the courage to start) is very difficult if you don’t love yourself. If you’re ready to swoon your hot self, keep on reading.
“我愛自己。”——聽上去真滑稽，估計很少有人會大聲喊出來吧？不過，自愛並不一定就是自大狂。如果不愛自己，又怎能有勇氣邁開第一步或有信心贏得成功呢？倘若你已決定好好愛自己，那就繼續往下讀吧。

1. Stop Beating Yourself Up
停止苦逼

Would you say the things you think about yourself to another person? If not, you owe yourself an apology. How could you love a person who believes such nasty things about you? Even if you did mess up, get over it. Big goof that’s mostly irrelevant? Laugh at it. Serious mistake that had repercussions? Learn from it. The important thing is to drop your baggage and move on.
你會不會把內心對自己的那些看法用來評價另外一個人？如果不會，那你還欠自己一個道歉。你怎會愛上聽信有關你的壞話的人呢？就算你確實搞砸過，那也是過去了。難得犯了糊塗？一笑而過吧。犯了後果嚴重的錯誤？那就吸取教訓。重要的是拋開包袱，繼續前行。

2. Think Positive
積極思考

Focus on your strengths (instead of your weaknesses). Leap out of bed (don’t crawl out of it). Look at every day as a new opportunity (not the same old story).
不要老盯着缺點，而應多想想優點。要一躍而起，不可拖拉磨嘰。不要認爲日無新事，其實每天都是新機遇。

3. Be Thankful
充滿感恩

Be aware of all the things you should be thankful for. Make note of the people, places, things and activities that bring you the most joy. If you slow down, you’ll realize you have an awful lot to be thankful for.
用心留意所有值得感恩的事情。記下那些給自己帶來快樂的人和事。只要放慢腳步，你一定會發現值得感恩的事情太多太多。

4. Learn and Grow
學習併成長

Developing your knowledge and skills will help you develop a healthy swagger and confidence that you can do anything.
擴充知識及磨練技能可讓你健全而充滿自信，要相信自己可以做好任何事情。

5. Accept Your Flaws/Quirks/Weirdness
接受缺點、怪癖和古怪

My penmanship sucks, I can’t ride a bike, I am only good at cooking three things (spaghetti/omelets/sandwiches) and I have an irrational fear of bees (which is so bad that I once drove my car into a stop sign after one flew into an open window on a summer day). And you know what? I wouldn’t change any of that. Be confident in yourself, no matter how “weird” (interesting and unique) you may be.
我寫字很難看，不會騎自行車，做飯只會三樣東西（意大利麪、煎蛋卷、三明治），而且我特別害怕蜜蜂：某個夏天，一隻蜜蜂從開着的窗戶飛進車裏，結果我一頭撞上了路標牌。儘管如此，我還是沒改掉這些。不管有多古怪、搞笑或與衆不同，都要自信滿滿地做好自己！

6. Use Your Strengths
發揮優點

Think about the top three accomplishments in your life. I don’t care how big or little they are. It could be graduating college, landing a sweet job, getting your first business client, winning an award, losing weight, or whatever. Now write down the strengths you used to accomplish those three things. See any common threads that led to achievement? If so, the path to more success is right in front of you. Use the strengths that have been proven to work if you want to boost belief in yourself make your weaknesses irrelevant.
請想一下這輩子完成的三大成就，不論大小，可以是大學畢業、找到好工作、爭取第一位生意客戶、獲獎或減肥；然後寫下幫你實現以上目標的優點。有沒有發現取得成功的相似線索？若有，那麼那條途徑也能引領你獲得更大成功。若想提高自信、淡化弱點，那就常常發揮行之有效的優點吧。

7. No More Comparisons
停止攀比

Forget about the celebrities you compare your body to, the relationships you contrast yours with, and the people you are so obsessed with pleasing. Life is not a competition. Your only goal is to become a better version of yourself.
不要再和明星比身材，不要拿自己的感情和別人的相比較，不要再一味討好他人。生活不是競賽，你只要做更好的自己就行了。8. Be Comfortable in Your Skin
喜歡自己的外貌

Yes, build a body that makes you feel strong and confident, but forget about any preconceived notions about what you “should look like.” The only person who gets to decide what “hot” and “sexy” means is you.
的確，健身使人感到強壯自信，但不要先入爲主地認爲自己看上去必須如何如何。性不性感，自己覺得就好。

9. Chill Out
保持鎮定

Why are you always in such a hurry? It is okay (and in fact necessary) to relax. Our brains can only handle so much. Quiet your inner-chatter, shut off all distractions, prepare a bubble bath, and get in with a good book. You earned it.
幹嘛總這麼急急躁躁？放鬆一下無可厚非，甚至還很有必要。大腦承受能力有限，所以停止在心裏喋喋不休，屏蔽所有干擾，享受一次泡泡澡，讀一本好書吧。你值得享受這些。

10. Pat Yourself on the Back
表揚自己

We are quick to judge ourselves for our mistakes yet we never seem to celebrate ourselves for our successes. Success doesn’t come in the form of a life-altering Big Victory; instead, the path to success typically includes a whole lot of small victories. Be happy with every victory, no matter how small you might think it is, because this will help you feel confident and keep moving forward.
我們太急於爲錯誤而自責，卻很少因成功而獎勵自己。成功並不是一蹴而就的，相反，它由無數小勝利組成。不論勝利多麼微不足道，也都值得開心，因爲這能增強信心，使你繼續前進。

11. Take Care of Your Body
照顧好身體

Everything you eat has an influence on your mood and energy levels. If you’re feeling depressed and exhausted, take an honest look at what you are eating. Everyone reacts differently to different foods, but with experimentation you can discover the fuel that results in the best performance.
飲食會影響情緒和精力。當你感到疲憊沮喪時，請如實反省自己吃了什麼。食物及療效因人而異。多加嘗試，你會找到能提高效率的食物。

12. Dance
跳舞

Dance parties are always good ideas. Who says you need a partner? Crank up some 80′s jams or show-tunes and get moving. You might feel silly—you might even laugh at yourself—but it will be fun (and you know it).
舞會向來受歡迎。誰說一定要有舞伴？換上便裝、奏起音樂，就能翩然起舞。或許你覺得傻乎乎的，甚至忍不住嘲笑自己，但不管怎樣，這確實很有意思！

13. Have Fun
開心玩樂

Life is not meant to be a never-ending to-do list. What makes you feel happy and excited? Do more of that. And before you claim you “don’t have the time,” please realize that there is no such thing as “enough time in the day.” There is, however, a thing called priorities and making the time for fun is a priority if you want to be happy.
生活並不總是充滿永無休止的工作任務。什麼讓你快樂開心？那就去做唄。先別說“沒時間”，世上原本就沒有所謂的“足夠時間”；不過，你確實可以安排優先次序——當你渴望快樂時，就優先騰出玩樂時間吧。

14. Pay Attention
用心觀察

When is the last time you really looked at the full moon and shining stars in the pitch black sky? What about the trees in your backyard that are the size of prehistoric dinosaurs? Have you picked a flower at the park lately (for the purpose of nasal delight or hair decoration)? You are surrounded by beautiful things.
上次仰望夜空中滿月繁星，是什麼時候？後院那棵像史前恐龍般壯碩的老樹呢？最近有沒有在公園摘朵花，只因花兒太香或忍不住想插髮髻上？其實身邊到處都是美好的事物呵！

15. Smile
微笑

Smile because you are worthy of love and happiness and free to have as much as your heart desires (and also you’re going to have a hard time staying sad with that cute grin plastered on your face).
微笑吧！因爲你值得擁有愛和幸福，以及各種內心渴望。當然你也會遇到困難，可就算難過，也別忘了微笑！