生孩子影響婚姻質量?
It may not come as a surprise to parents, but having children really does impinge on marital bliss.
Nine in ten couples suffer a downturn in 'marital satisfaction' once the first child is born, according to an eight-year study.
And relationship and stress problems are worse for those who live together before getting married and starting a family.
The findings will ring true for millions of parents who found everything from their finances to their sex lives suddenly changed with a new arrival.
But the researchers insist the findings should not be seen as a reason to remain childless as bringing children into the world can bring a 'whole dimension of family happiness'.
Psychologists at the universities of Denver and Texas examined the marriages of around 220 couples over an eight-year period.
They found 90 per cent suffered what they called a 'decrease in marital satisfaction' after the birth of a child.
Childless couples suffered the same problems - only a little later, explained Denver University psychology professor Scott Stanley.
He said: 'Couples who do not have children also show diminished marital quality over time.
However, having a baby accelerates the deterioration, especially seen during periods of adjustment right after the birth of a child.'
The research, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found relationship problems were worse for those who had lived together first - possibly because long-established shared routines are more disrupted by new arrivals.
也許這對於爲人父母者來說並不奇怪,但生孩子的確會影響婚姻幸福。
一項爲期八年的調查顯示,90%的夫妻在第一個孩子出生後“婚姻滿意度”下降。
對在結婚成家之前就已經同居的人來說,生孩子對兩人關係的影響及其所帶來的壓力問題更爲嚴重。
這些調查結果對於很多爲人父母者來說似乎的確如此。他們發現,隨着小生命的降臨,家庭經濟狀況以及兩人的性生活等一切問題突然都發生了變化。
但研究人員強調,這項調查結果不應成爲不要孩子的理由,因爲孩子會帶來一種“全方位的家庭幸福”。
丹佛大學和得克薩斯大學的心理學家在爲期八年的時間裏對大約220對夫妻的婚姻狀況進行了調查。
他們發現,90%的夫妻在有了孩子之後“婚姻滿意度降低”。
丹佛大學的心理學教授斯科特•斯坦利解釋稱,沒有孩子的夫妻也會面臨同樣的問題,只不過是早晚的問題。
他說:“時間久了,沒有孩子的夫妻的婚姻質量也會逐漸下降。“
”但生孩子會加速這一過程,尤其是在孩子出生後不久的調整階段。”
這項在《個性與社會心理學雜誌》上發表的研究成果表明,對婚前就已同居的人來說,孩子對兩人關係的影響更爲嚴重,這可能是因爲兩人長期形成的共同的生活規律被新成員打破了。